My perspective - Time to teach failure
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- Published on Thursday, June 2, 2016
By Kate Jackman-Atkinson
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In the last year, a couple of pro football players have been in the news, for their parenting tactics, of all things. It started nine months ago with Pittsburgh Steelers linebacker James Harrison鈥檚 post on Instagram, in which he explained that he returned trophies given to his sons, because they were participation awards. On May 11, Harrison鈥檚 teammate, DeAngelo Williams, posted a photo of his daughter with three ribbons. In the post, he explained, 鈥淚 took her Field Day participation ribbon & gave it back to her teacher...then in the next event she got 1st place.鈥�
While on one hand, children鈥檚 sports are moving towards equality and no score keeping, there is a growing push from parents who want their children to be rewarded only with trophies they earn. They hope this experience will better prepare them for adulthood and world of winners and losers and no participation awards.
There is a growing argument that children should learn this at a young age, when failure carries little in the way of repercussions. To this end, there鈥檚 a growing body of study looking at the idea of 鈥済rit鈥� and how to teach people the unquantifiable character traits that will help them succeed in life.
As a society, we seem to have forgotten the importance that failure plays as a building block to success. No one likes to fail, but new research is pointing to the importance of that experience.
Last month, Angela Duckworth, a psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania, published a book called 鈥淕rit鈥�. Duckworth鈥檚 work has focused on the role that grit, defined as perseverance and the exclusive pursuit of a single passion, plays in success. It turns out that measuring someone鈥檚 level of grit can have a strong ability to predict future success.
Some of Duckworth鈥檚 work took place at the United States Military Academy at West Point, which has spent years trying to determine which students will stick through the gruelling first seven weeks of training. It turns out that SAT scores, high school averages and physical fitness levels aren鈥檛 a reliable indicator of the likelihood they will complete the program.
In 2004, Duckworth, then a doctoral student, administered a test to the students on their second day. The students were presented with 12 questions with statements such as 鈥淚 finish whatever I begin鈥� and ranked them on a scale, from 鈥渘ot at all like me鈥� to 鈥渧ery much like me鈥�. It turned out that of 1,218 cadets who wrote the test, the 71 students who quit the program had similar test scores to their peers in every area, except for this one.
Duckworth鈥檚 work, which aimed to find a way of getting students to persevere a little bit longer when facing problems that were outside their skill set, began by talking to people who were successful. What she found was that the distinguishing feature of these successful people was how they handled feelings of frustration, disappointment and boredom. These high performers didn鈥檛 cut their losses and change to an easier task, they recognized that a struggle wasn鈥檛 a cause for alarm.
Subsequently, she has focused her work on changing how we view failure, most people keep their failures private. It鈥檚 not surprising鈥� while people say that they think effort is more important than talent and prefer industriousness to intelligence in a new employee, the reality paints a different picture. Research by Chia-Jung Tsay of University College London found that when faced with two options, people prefer those with whose are considered 鈥渘aturals鈥� to those who are considered 鈥渟trivers鈥�. We still instinctively prefer those who haven鈥檛 failed, something that hasn鈥檛 changed in the 500 years since Michelangelo said, 鈥淚f people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it would not seem so wonderful at all.鈥�
No one likes to fail, or watch others struggle, but maybe it鈥檚 time to teach failure. The world is fraught with struggles and challenges, we need to know how to pick ourselves up and look at our failures in a constructive way. In this area, no one is a natural.
